If you don't seem to be getting the answers you need - are you asking the right questions? What questions should you ask?

Blaming yourself or others, or feeling hurt, angry or worthless, mean you can keep the situation the same and not have to move on. Therefore you don't have to make changes. So life stays safe - but you don't make progress. In what ways should you be making progress now? What do you do and say to stop that happening? Isn't it time you stopped saying and doing that? If you saw your good friend saying or doing this, what would you wish they would do about it?
As long as you have your 'prickles' out, like a porcupine, no-one can get near you to hurt you. You can't hurt a porcupine - but you can't hold a porcupine either. So it's not a win-win situation.
The first stage of a huge shock is disbelief - I can't believe that's happened. As soon as you learn to accept what's happened you are ready to move on in life and pretty soon you see a job that's interesting, or meet someone who looks good, or find a project you want to be involved with, and start putting emotions there that up till then you had been pouring down the hole of your previous disaster.
As long as you are living you will have people who leave you, either through death or the finish of a relationship, but that doesn't mean you have to stop loving.

Dr Phil McGraw.